There are places that remain in our memories, the details may become slightly blurred, nostalgia may colour our thoughts, but they don’t fade. And how those places made us feel at the time is the one thing that remains.
Today I’m so pleased to hand over to Jan Baynham. Jan and I first met in 2014 at a book event, and she’s been a friend ever since. We meet up every now and then to talk writing and she’ was always been a great supporter of the Tenby and Narberth book fairs. Jan is going to tell us about her childhood memories
When I began to think about what I was going to write, I was immediately transported back my happy childhood growing up in a tiny village in mid-Wales. I was born in 2, Beech Cottage, Newbridge-on -Wye.
And for the first few years, we lived with my lovely granddad whose house it was. I vaguely remember standing behind a wooden board slotted into grooves in the front door posts he’d made to stop me escaping onto the street. No elaborate safety gates in those days! Granddad worked on the Llysdinam estate and although I don’t remember it myself, I recall Mum telling me she’d been embarrassed when Lady Delia came to see him and I’d invited her to ‘Step your leg over and come and see Grandad’!
My grandfather was very keen gardener, and we always had an abundant supply of fresh vegetables and soft fruit. I remember spending hours playing in his garden, especially watering the plants with a large metal watering can.
By the time my sister was born, we’d moved to 3, Pendre, another terraced house just a few doors away on Crown Row. I still spent a lot of time at Beech Cottage, though. One memory I have of that time is playing in the large shed at the top of granddad’s garden. In there was an old wind-up ‘His Master’s Voice’ gramophone and lots of brittle seventy-eight records no longer considered good enough to stay in the house. For me, Wit provided hours of fun. I can remember winding the handle as fast as I could and then listening to the music slowing down as it needed winding up again. Another memory I have is when my mum and sister had an appointment in Llandrindod, Granddad looked after me. We had Lyons cupcakes as a treat and I can still taste the thick solid chocolate icing on top as I peeled back the silver foil cake case.
Looking back, I realise that Beech Cottage must have been a tied cottage because when he retired at the age of sixty-five, Granddad came to live with us. By then, we were living at the other end of the village. I remember going for lots of walks with him. He made a swing for my sister and me and when friends came to call, they would always keep themselves amused on the swing if we weren’t ready. Now I was a bit older, my granddad taught me to play Whist. I still love playing cards but now it has to be Patience as no one else is interested in playing. I knew I’d made it when I was able to attend the local Whist Drive in the Reading Room as his partner.
The village school was small and often we would have the same teacher for a few years. Miss Lewis was my favourite. Many of the children lived on farms or in hamlets outside Newbridge. I learned to ride my bike on the village green in front of the school. I can see it now. It was a maroon Raleigh with straight handlebars. My dad taught me to ride. When I thought he was till running behind me holding the saddle, I was actually riding independently. That bike gave me complete freedom, enabling me to cycle anywhere. At weekends and at holiday time, I remember setting off for the day on my bike to call on friends to play. The church bells chiming six o’clock would be my signal to go home.
If I saw a phone box out in the countryside, I would often ring my dad at work. I can remember the receptionist’s voice on the tannoy at Auto Palace where he worked. ‘Five, telephone, please’ would echo down the phone. I can’t imagine I’d be as patient as my lovely dad if I was called to the telephone just to have a chat about where out on the Common I was.
Fields, woods and riverbanks formed my playground. Picnics by the rock pools at Llan Cam and swimming in the river at Black Bridge in the summer, as well as lighting fires in the tunnels to the side of the bridge over the river Ithon, are all memories that resurfaced while writing this piece. We had to walk along the railway line to get to Black Bridge, something that would be frowned upon as highly dangerous nowadays. My first ever published short story was entitled ‘Sledging in Mansell’s Field’ and recounts a true story of how we used to sledge down the hill in a field close to where I lived to see who could clear the stream at the bottom and not land in the water.
After coming home by six o’clock, I would be ready for bed by the start of The Archers and go upstairs when it finished at seven. Our cocker spaniel, Laddie, had worked it out that when the Archers’ music started that would be the time that Dad came through the door and would bark loudly. Often, we would see the orange headlights of my dad’s car coming along the lane behind the house. I’m still a huge Archers fan to this day.
I very much enjoyed looking back on these early childhood memories, grateful for the freedom I had to explore and make my own fun. A big thank you, Judith, for inviting me to take part in your series.
About Jan:
About Jan Baynham
After retiring from a career in teaching and advisory education, Jan joined a small writing group in a local library where she wrote her first piece of fiction. From then on, she was hooked!
Fascinated by family secrets and ‘skeletons lurking in cupboards’, Jan’s dual narrative novels explore how decisions and actions made by family members from one generation impact on the lives of the next. Her first three novels look at the bond between mothers and daughters as well as forbidden love. Setting plays an important part in Jan’s stories and as well as her native mid-Wales, there is always a contrasting location – Greece, Sicily and northern France. Her next books will involve secrets and sibling relationships; the first set in 1945 and 1964 takes the reader back to Sicily where two sisters work together to prove their father’s innocence of a wrongdoing.
Originally from mid-Wales, Jan lives in Cardiff with her husband.
To find out more about Jan, she may be contacted on:
Twitter – @JanBaynham https://twitter.com/JanBaynham
Facebook – Jan Baynham Writer https://www.facebook.com/JanBayLit
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Thanks for sharing another great memories. What a wonderful remembrance on the past, which now looks really looks like more as the “good old times”. Enjoy a bautiful week! xx Michael
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Thank you, Michael. It was a long time ago.
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Gosh, Lyons cup cakes and Raleigh bikes. I remember them too. You appear to ahve had an ideal childhood with a lovely grandfather. Everyone seems to have grown their own back then. My maternal grandfather was a keen gardner with fresh veg, fruit and flowers all grown in a huge garden. My dad was the same, growing up – when we came back to England at last, he grew all our veg and fruit (trees and bushes). People need to get back to it. I love your photos too. Love this Jan, thanks so much. And, Judith, thanks. xx
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It’s a lovely nostalgic post from Jan, isn’t it, Jane! x
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it really is. Her grandfather sounded fab. x
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Oh yes, indeed.
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Even the dress you are wearing with the watering can reminds me of my childhood. Just love it. The photos are so interesting. Such lovely memories to have.
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It’s an achievable bit of paradise, going back to fruit and veg growing! xx
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Indeed, Alex. x
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It is and you know it won’t have ny nasties in it. Pure goodness.
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Thank you, Jane. I’m glad you enjoyed the piece and could relate to some of the memories.
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Indeed, good luck.
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Loved this and those evocative photographs! Your grandfather’s expression is one of gentle patience and good humour. The account of your days of freedom brought memories flooding back of those times before ‘helicopter’ parenting, and you certainly made your own fun! It always feels so sad when a child says they’re bored.
Another fascinating contribution, Judith – and one I could identify with so well, right down to the 78s! xx
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Oh yes, Alex. Reminiscing here!! xx
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Oh, happy days! xx
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Thank you, Alex. I’m glad some of the memories were ones you could identify with. I could never remember being bored.
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Nor me! Your piece brought back to me how lucky we were to have that freedom. 😀
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Thank you, Alex. It was lovely to reminisce. I’m pleased the memories were ones you could identify with too. I was never bored.
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More wonderful memories. This week with Jan Baynham.
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How wonderful to have such fond memories of your grandfather. He sounds great. Even though we may have been raised in different parts of the world under different circumstances, the importance of grandparents is always the same.
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You are so right, Darlene. x
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Yes, Darlene. That’s so true. Thank you for commenting.
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What special memories and a lovely tribute to Jan’s growing up days around love and compassion with her dear grandpa. Those were certainly the golden days we didn’t realize actually were. ❤
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Jan certainly writes with real love, Debby. Times gone by – good memories left behind to think on. xx
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❤
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Yes, Debby. I don’t think we really appreciated how special those times were. Thank you for responding.
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Pleasure Jan 🙂
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What lovely memories and you had a terrific grandfather! Mine was a carpenter and made a back door for our house and a kitchen table.
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